Ka nj\u00eb \u00e7ast n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do njeriu kur pyetja m\u00eb themelore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb \u201ckush jam un\u00eb?\u201d, por \u201cme k\u00eb jam un\u00eb?\u201d. Ne jemi qenie q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb pasqyrimin tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Karakteri yn\u00eb, sado i lindur apo i nd\u00ebrtuar prej p\u00ebrvojave, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb dialog me miqt\u00eb q\u00eb zgjedhim rreth vetes.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb rinin\u00eb time, e shihja veten si nj\u00eb gur t\u00eb fort\u00eb q\u00eb nuk prekej prej ujit q\u00eb rridhte rrotull. Miqt\u00eb nuk i kam menduar kurr\u00eb si themeli i vet\u00ebdijes. Por me kalimin e viteve ti kupton se gurit n\u00ebse i bie p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb pika e ujit do ta gdhend\u00eb at\u00eb! Ashtu ndodh edhe me ne, fjal\u00ebt e miqve, heshtjet e veprimet, modelet e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre m\u00ebnyra se si ata perceptojn\u00eb bot\u00ebn, jan\u00eb goditje t\u00eb vogla q\u00eb na gdhendin.<\/p>\n
Karakteri yn\u00eb ose th\u00ebn\u00eb ndryshe , thelbi yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb produkt i nj\u00eb pro\u00e7esi t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm, nj\u00eb riciklim i p\u00ebrzgjedhjes s\u00eb miqve. Nuk jemi vet\u00ebm autor\u00eb t\u00eb krijimit t\u00eb vetes, por edhe bashkautor\u00eb me miqt\u00eb q\u00eb na rrethojn\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb thjesht pasqyra q\u00eb na kthejn\u00eb imazhin ton\u00eb. Ata jan\u00eb edhe mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb versionet q\u00eb nuk kemi mundur t\u00eb ishim apo q\u00eb do d\u00ebshironim t\u00eb jemi. Nj\u00eb mik i guximsh\u00ebm na b\u00ebn t\u00eb dyshojm\u00eb pse trembemi. Nj\u00eb mik i prirur drejt s\u00eb bukur\u00ebs e mir\u00ebsis\u00eb na kujton r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e artit. Nj\u00eb mik i heshtur na m\u00ebson se fjal\u00ebt e tep\u00ebrta shpesh jan\u00eb nj\u00eb mburoj\u00eb, jo nj\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Karakteri formohet duke huazuar pak nga secili, si nj\u00eb mozaik q\u00eb plot\u00ebsohet nga shum\u00ebllojshm\u00ebri gur\u00ebsh.<\/p>\n
Por ka edhe nj\u00eb ligj t\u00eb fsheht\u00eb, deri diku hyjnor t\u00eb af\u00ebrsis\u00eb njer\u00ebzore. T\u00ebrhiqemi m\u00eb fort e kaq insitktivisht pothuaj deri n\u00eb adhurim nga ata q\u00eb i ngjajn\u00eb vetes son\u00eb. Edhe kur jeta na vendos p\u00ebrball\u00eb karaktereve t\u00eb kund\u00ebrta, q\u00eb na sfidojn\u00eb, mbetet n\u00eb brendin\u00eb ton\u00eb nj\u00eb instinkt kthimi tek ngjashm\u00ebria. Pra e th\u00ebn\u00eb me fjal\u00eb tjera n\u00ebse shihni bashk\u00eb dy njer\u00ebz q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb asgj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt n\u00eb pamje t\u00eb par\u00eb, thjesht jeni duke i paragjykuar pasi ata jan\u00eb nj\u00eb puthitje e plot\u00eb s\u00eb brendshmi. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj nostalgjie e vetes, nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkim i streh\u00ebs ku shpirti e njeh veten pa shum\u00eb p\u00ebrkthime. N\u00eb fund, ne mund t\u00eb marrim drit\u00eb nga kushdo n\u00eb udh\u00ebn ton\u00eb, por rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt i ngulim gjithnj\u00eb aty ku gjejm\u00eb jehon\u00ebn e vetes.<\/p>\n
Njeriu nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb substanc\u00eb hermetike e padep\u00ebrtueshme, por galeri marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniesh. Aristoteli do t\u00eb thoshte se njeriu \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201czoon politikon\u201d (qenie e bashk\u00ebsis\u00eb) pra qenie q\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb karakter jasht\u00eb lidhjeve miq\u00ebsore. Sepse miq\u00ebsia nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi e koh\u00ebs s\u00eb lir\u00eb, por nj\u00eb laborator ku testohen ngjashm\u00ebrit\u00eb, ku gjejn\u00eb prehje shpirtrat e ku b\u00ebjm\u00eb konpromise p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn p\u00ebr at\u00eb pjes\u00eb q\u00eb nuk na e njeh dot gjithkush!<\/p>\n
Pra, t\u00eb m\u00eb thuash cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb miqt\u00eb e tu, m\u00eb ke treguar padashje di\u00e7ka thelb\u00ebsore p\u00ebr karakterin t\u00ebnd. Ata nuk p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht at\u00eb, pasi ti mund t\u00eb jesh mes tyre edhe si nj\u00eb \u201c mish i huaj\u201d p\u00ebr interesa, prej vetmis\u00eb, prej pamund\u00ebsis\u00eb p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb, por n\u00eb rastin e zgjedhjes s\u00eb vet\u00ebdijshme ata mbeten harta ku ti vet\u00eb gdhend rrug\u00ebt e tua. Nj\u00eb njeri i rrethuar nga miq t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm nuk do t\u00eb jet\u00eb domosdo i p\u00ebrsosur, por do t\u00eb ket\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb pran\u00eb pasqyr\u00ebn e ndershm\u00ebris\u00eb. Nj\u00eb njeri mes miqsh sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsor\u00eb do ta ket\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb thell\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb gjendet brenda vetes. Nj\u00eb njeri i rrethuar nga njer\u00ebz t\u00eb d\u00ebshtuar nuk do t\u00eb ket\u00eb kurr\u00eb q\u00ebllime t\u00eb reja e motivuese!
\nShpesh p\u00ebrputhjet tona jan\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyese p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00eb e p\u00ebr t\u00eb keq q\u00eb do t\u00eb thote q\u00eb me disa miq deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb pik\u00eb marrdh\u00ebnia duket n\u00eb vendin e vet, por n\u00eb fakt nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb.
\nDikush nga t\u00eb dy shtiret ose dikush nga t\u00eb dy sforcohet, apo dikush nga ty vuan nga sinqeriteti i tep\u00ebrt! At\u00ebher\u00eb mekanizmi fillon t\u00eb g\u00ebrvisht\u00eb me zhurma e dhembje.
\nPor ja vjen \u00e7asti q\u00eb ti zbulon miqt\u00eb e tyre, njer\u00ebz q\u00eb \u201c\u00e7irren\u201d p\u00ebr parime, e i m\u00ebshojn\u00eb dukjes, paragjykues nga shk\u00eblqimi i veshjes deri tek gota e mbushur t\u00eb suksesit p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo q\u00eb nuk ka nj\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb madh\u2026 K\u00ebta t\u00eb sjellin n\u00eb pjat\u00eb t\u00eb argjendt\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn e cila nuk t\u00eb p\u00ebrket! Nj\u00ebjt\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte edhe n\u00eb kahun pozitiv. Pra nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi n\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb apo keq miqt\u00eb e miqve t\u00eb tu apo drejtp\u00ebrdrejt miqt\u00eb e tu, e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb se ata nuk jan\u00eb si ti.
\nShpesh p\u00ebrzgjedhjet tona \u00e7alojn\u00eb nga mosnjohja e vetes! E kjo do t\u00eb jap\u00eb miqt\u00eb e gabuar e gjykimin e gabuar p\u00ebr ty!<\/p>\n
Ndodh t\u00eb \u00e7uditesh pasi sheh nj\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje perfekte miqsh n\u00eb larg\u00ebsi pa njohje reale, pa sprova pa koh\u00eb t\u00eb shpenzuar!
\nAt\u00ebher\u00eb ti bindesh p\u00ebr intuit\u00ebn shpirt\u00ebrore! <\/p>\n
Zgjedhjet tona edhe kur drejtohen nga parimi\u201d m\u00eb mie\u00eb se vetja\u201d nuk do t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb gjat\u00eb, pasi ajo q\u00eb zgjodh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb mos na zgjedh\u00eb
\nUn\u00eb ende nuk di aft\u00ebsin\u00eb time t\u00eb njohjes s\u00eb vetes por di q\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse mendohesh nj\u00eb mij\u00eb vite ajo q\u00eb ti zgjedh \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb th\u00ebrret s\u00eb brendshmi pra nxitimi, insitkti, fati dhe formimi nj\u00ebher\u00ebsh!
\nNjohja ky labirinth me drit\u00ebhije, e dalje q\u00eb sfidojn\u00eb intelektin fillon nga instikti duke i paraprir\u00eb merit\u00ebs.
\nKurse karakteri rezulton si shuma e heshtur e t\u00eb gjitha miq\u00ebsive q\u00eb kemi pranuar apo na kan\u00eb refuzuar. Dhe kur pyet veten \u201ckush jam un\u00eb?\u201d, ndoshta p\u00ebrgjigjja m\u00eb e sinqert\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte:\u2014Jam kjo q\u00eb jam, fal\u00eb miqve q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb zgjedhur e q\u00eb kam zgjedhur.\u201d
\nN\u00ebse m\u00eb njeh miqt\u00eb e t\u00eb njoh ata , e di cili je e ti se cila jam!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ka nj\u00eb \u00e7ast n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do njeriu kur pyetja m\u00eb themelore nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb \u201ckush jam un\u00eb?\u201d, por \u201cme k\u00eb jam un\u00eb?\u201d. Ne jemi qenie q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb pasqyrimin tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Karakteri yn\u00eb, sado i lindur apo i nd\u00ebrtuar prej p\u00ebrvojave, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb dialog me miqt\u00eb q\u00eb zgjedhim rreth vetes. N\u00eb rinin\u00eb time, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":91425,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-91424","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-te-tjera"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91424","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=91424"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91424\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":91426,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/91424\/revisions\/91426"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/91425"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=91424"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=91424"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=91424"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}