N\u00eb dashurojm\u00eb shum\u00eb persona, por vet\u00ebm tre prej tyre jan\u00eb dashurit\u00eb tona dhe secila prej tyre p\u00ebr arsye specifike.
\nR\u00ebnia e dashuris\u00eb p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb: Dashuria q\u00eb duket e drejt\u00eb
\nP\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht dashuria e par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo shkollore, ajo tek e cila partner\u00ebt nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb idealisten e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies. Shpesh her\u00eb ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrzierje e p\u00ebrrallave, trillimeve, historive romantike t\u00eb librave, filmave dhe telenovelave. Ajo karakterizohet nga ndrojtja, hutimi ose dhe nxitimi, humbja e kontrollit dhe vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajtjes. Nuk p\u00ebrjashtohet t\u00eb ndodh ajo lloj lidhje q\u00eb mund ta ndeshim vet\u00ebm n\u00eb p\u00ebrfytyrime idilike poet\u00ebsh dhe tablo piktor\u00ebsh.
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria q\u00eb apelon p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb – dhe ndoshta familjeve tona. Ne hyjm\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb me besimin se kjo do t\u00eb jet\u00eb dashuria jon\u00eb e vetme dhe nuk ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi n\u00ebse nuk ndihet fare e drejt\u00eb, ose n\u00ebse e gjejm\u00eb veten t\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb g\u00eblltisim t\u00eb v\u00ebrtetat tona personale p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb pun\u00eb, sepse thell\u00eb ne besojm\u00eb se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb dashuria duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Sepse n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj dashurie, si na shohin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sesa ne n\u00eb fakt ndiejm\u00eb.
\n\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri q\u00eb duket e drejt\u00eb.
\nR\u00ebnia n\u00eb dashuri e dyt\u00eb: Dashuria e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb
\nE dyta supozohet t\u00eb jet\u00eb dashuria jon\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb – ajo q\u00eb na ofron m\u00ebsimet se kush jemi dhe si ne shpesh duam apo duam t\u00eb duam. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb lloji i dashuris\u00eb q\u00eb dhemb, qoft\u00eb p\u00ebrmes g\u00ebnjeshtrave, dhimbjes apo manipulimit.
\nNe mendojm\u00eb se po b\u00ebjm\u00eb zgjedhje t\u00eb ndryshme se sa t\u00eb par\u00ebt, por n\u00eb realitet ne po b\u00ebjm\u00eb zgjedhje jasht\u00eb nevoj\u00ebs p\u00ebr t\u00eb m\u00ebsuar m\u00ebsime. Dashuria jon\u00eb e dyt\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb cik\u00ebl sprovash. Ajo p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet shum\u00eb shpesh sepse mendojm\u00eb se n\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00eb m\u00ebnyre p\u00ebrfundimi do t\u00eb jet\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm nga ai i m\u00ebparshmi. Megjithat\u00eb, \u00e7do her\u00eb q\u00eb ne p\u00ebrpiqemi, ajo p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht p\u00ebrfundon m\u00eb keq se m\u00eb par\u00eb.
\nNdonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e s\u00ebmur\u00eb, e pa ekuilibruar apo narciziste. Mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb abuzim apo manipulim emocional, mendor ose fizik. Ka shum\u00eb t\u00eb ngjar\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb ket\u00eb nivele t\u00eb larta dramash. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht ajo q\u00eb na mban t\u00eb shyr\u00eb n\u00eb rr\u00ebfim, p\u00ebr shkak se \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb emocionale me shtigje t\u00eb larta ekstreme. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj dashurie, p\u00ebrpjekja p\u00ebr t’iu kushtuar seksit b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sesa n\u00ebse duhet.
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria q\u00eb ne d\u00ebshironim ishte e drejt\u00eb.
\nR\u00ebnia e dashuris\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e tret\u00eb: Dashuria q\u00eb zgjat
\nE treta \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria q\u00eb nuk e shohim kurr\u00eb. Ajo q\u00eb zakonisht duket e gabuar p\u00ebr ne dhe q\u00eb shkat\u00ebrron \u00e7do ideal t\u00eb mbetur q\u00eb kemi kapur, p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb dashuria duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuria q\u00eb vjen aq leht\u00eb sa q\u00eb nuk duket e mundur. \u00cbsht\u00eb lloji ku lidhja nuk mund t\u00eb shpjegohet dhe na rr\u00ebshqet nga k\u00ebmb\u00ebt sepse nuk kemi planifikuar kurr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb. <\/p>\n
P\u00ebrgatiti: Albert Vataj<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
N\u00eb dashurojm\u00eb shum\u00eb persona, por vet\u00ebm tre prej tyre jan\u00eb dashurit\u00eb tona dhe secila prej tyre p\u00ebr arsye specifike. R\u00ebnia e dashuris\u00eb p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb: Dashuria q\u00eb duket e drejt\u00eb P\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht dashuria e par\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo shkollore, ajo tek e cila partner\u00ebt nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb idealisten e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies. Shpesh her\u00eb ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrzierje e p\u00ebrrallave, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":79911,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-79910","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-te-tjera"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79910","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=79910"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79910\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":79912,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79910\/revisions\/79912"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/79911"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=79910"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=79910"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/neutrale.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=79910"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}