\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb pyetje q\u00eb ndoshta gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb rrall\u00eb ua b\u00ebjm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb: A e dini se gjysh\u00ebrit nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm prind\u00ebrit e prind\u00ebrve, por edhe nj\u00eb histori dhe p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb m\u00eb vete, q\u00eb ja vlen ta njoh\u00ebsh, edhe kur duket se gj\u00ebrat nuk kan\u00eb shkuar si\u00e7 duhet, edhe kur ata nuk kan\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb suksesshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar, edhe kur nuk ka di\u00e7ka heroike?
\nN\u00eb fakt, po t\u00eb shohim lajmet, po t\u00eb ndjekim shqet\u00ebsimet e gjysh\u00ebrve dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebsuesve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb, mund t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb shpejt se pothuajse t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jemi dor\u00ebzuar si prind\u00ebr nga pak nga p\u00ebrpara k\u00ebrkesave t\u00eb pafundme nga ana e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve p\u00ebr veshje, p\u00ebr pajisje elektronike, p\u00ebr udh\u00ebtime, p\u00ebr teka pa fund \u2013 pra p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka materiale. N\u00eb nxitim t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebris\u00eb son\u00eb, shum\u00eb pak u flasim atyre p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebparshme, p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb kemi dashur e q\u00eb jeta na dha nj\u00eb leksion ndryshe nga ai q\u00eb menduam apo \u00ebnd\u00ebrruam. U k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb shum\u00eb pak t\u00eb komunikojn\u00eb me gjysh\u00ebrit, e aq m\u00eb pak edhe me fqinj\u00ebt. \u201cShko n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, laj dritaret, m\u00ebso t\u00eb gatuash, nd\u00ebrto di\u00e7ka, gjej nj\u00eb pun\u00eb, vizito nj\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb, b\u00ebj detyrat e shkoll\u00ebs dhe pasi t\u2019i kesh mbaruar, lexo nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr. Vendi yt nuk detyrohet t\u00eb t\u00eb siguroj\u00eb ambiente \u00e7lodh\u00ebse dhe as prind\u00ebrit nuk e kan\u00eb p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm t\u00eb t\u00eb arg\u00ebtojn\u00eb. Bota nuk t\u00eb detyrohet asgj\u00eb, duhet ta fitosh vet\u00eb jet\u00ebn. Ti i detyrohesh bot\u00ebs di\u00e7ka\u201d, shkruante disa koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb drejtori i North College n\u00eb Zeland\u00ebn e Re, John Tapene, teksa u k\u00ebrkonte t\u00eb rinjve t\u00eb vendit t\u00eb tij q\u00eb t\u00eb hiqnin dor\u00eb nga arg\u00ebtimet e pa kuptimta e t\u00eb shihnin nga e ardhmja. Por kjo \u00e7\u00ebshtje e ngritur nga neozelandezi Tapene, si nj\u00eb person q\u00eb kontakton \u00e7do dit\u00eb me nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit, prej koh\u00ebsh \u00ebsht\u00eb ngritur edhe nga psikolog\u00eb dhe filozof\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, neuropsikologu i famsh\u00ebm grek, Nikos Sideris, n\u00eb librin e tij lidhur me komunikimin me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, shprehet se duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb prind\u00ebrit ata q\u00eb duhet t\u2019u tregojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve at\u00eb q\u00eb mundet dhe at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk mundet apo q\u00eb nuk duhet ta ken\u00eb, si dhe t\u00eb jen\u00eb gjykues ndaj asaj q\u00eb shfaqin f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e tyre. \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr vet\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn, n\u00ebse imagjinata e tyre do t\u00eb diktoj\u00eb q\u00ebndrimin e prind\u00ebrve\u201d, shprehet Sideris, duke k\u00ebrkuar nga prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb bashk\u00ebbisedimin me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tyre ta shikojn\u00eb edhe si nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebbisedim me veten, si nj\u00eb rritje tjet\u00ebr.
\nNd\u00ebrkaq, filozofi spanjoll Fernando Savater sugjeron q\u00eb t\u2019u m\u00ebsojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve se pasojat q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga liria p\u00ebr t\u00eb vepruar nuk mund t\u00eb mohohen apo zhduken sipas qejfit. Sipas Savater, Liria nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur \u00e7do gj\u00eb, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb pranuar pasojat n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb apo n\u00eb t\u00eb keq, n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb asaj q\u00eb na ka ndodhur apo q\u00eb nuk arrit\u00ebm t\u00eb b\u00ebnim. Ky moskomunikim ka b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e sot\u00ebm t\u00eb mos diskutojn\u00eb asgj\u00eb, madje as ato gj\u00ebra, t\u00eb cilat i prekin \u00e7do dit\u00eb apo do t\u2019i prekin n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, sidomos kur t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb pleq\u00ebrin\u00eb e tyre.
\nDuhet ta pranojm\u00eb q\u00eb kjo sfid\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak e leht\u00eb por, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, ne kemi detyr\u00eb t\u2019i inkurajojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb guxojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e tyre, duke marr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr detyrimet e tyre p\u00ebr nj\u00eb jet\u00eb dinjitoze. T\u2019u m\u00ebsojm\u00eb se t\u00eb gabosh \u00ebsht\u00eb njer\u00ebzore, por q\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh falje \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb njer\u00ebzore. T\u2019u m\u00ebsojm\u00eb se udh\u00ebkryqet n\u00eb jet\u00eb merren kur ke nj\u00eb dor\u00eb pran\u00eb, kur mundesh q\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh tjetrin n\u00eb sy, dhe kur e kupton q\u00eb je pjes\u00eb e nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie ku ke detyrimet e tua p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. E sidomos t\u2019u themi se, jeta pa dor\u00ebn drejt tjetrit, pa dor\u00ebn drejt gjysh\u00ebrve, rrezikon t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm vetmin\u00eb dhe zhg\u00ebnjimin.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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