Grat\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyera p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb gj\u00ebra dhe nj\u00eb nga m\u00ebnyrat m\u00eb efektive q\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimet \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb manipulojn\u00eb burrat p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb duan. <\/p>\n
Ekspertja e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve Christy Whitman beson se bota e brendshme, ashtu si mendimet, ndjenjat, besimet, ndikon n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e jashtme, s\u00eb cil\u00ebs i p\u00ebrkasin p\u00ebrvojat dhe rrethanat. <\/p>\n
Disa gra i kontrollojn\u00eb burrat duke i trajtuar si f\u00ebmij\u00eb <\/p>\n
Burrat ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb sillen si f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb duhet ta inkurajojn\u00eb at\u00eb sjellje duke i lajkatuar. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb grua trajton nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb rritur si nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, ajo mund t\u00eb ndihet e frustruar, por n\u00eb realitet ajo po p\u00ebrpiqet ta detyroj\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb di\u00e7ka ose t\u00eb detyroj\u00eb rezultatin q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb grua nuk mund t\u2019i besoj\u00eb burrit t\u00eb saj aq sa ta lejoj\u00eb t\u00eb blej\u00eb sende ushqimore ose t\u00eb paketoj\u00eb rroba, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb se ai nuk mund ta b\u00ebj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ajo thjesht d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb ato detyra t\u00eb b\u00ebhen pik\u00ebrisht ashtu si\u00e7 e imagjinonte.
\nPrandaj, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u2019ia l\u00ebr\u00eb vetes, ajo merr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi, gj\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb fund i sjell m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe forcon dyshimin se nj\u00eb mashkull nuk mund t\u2019i kryej\u00eb i vet\u00ebm as detyrat elementare. Nj\u00eb grua kontrollon situat\u00ebn, por k\u00ebshtu parandalon q\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet ose p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rreth vicioz. Grat\u00eb duhet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se kat\u00ebr fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb ata kontrollojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb jan\u00eb \u201cdo ta b\u00ebj\u00eb\u201d. <\/p>\n
Disa gra i kontrollojn\u00eb meshkujt duke heshtur <\/p>\n
N\u00ebse nj\u00eb burr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i frustruar dhe d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb di\u00e7ka, ai thjesht do ta thot\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ndoshta do t\u00eb b\u00ebrtasin kur duan di\u00e7ka, dhe shumica e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb sepse shpesh e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb d\u00ebshirat e tyre t\u00eb brendshme. Ata duan q\u00eb d\u00ebshirat e tyre t\u00eb shprehen k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb i shprehin ato n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb ashp\u00ebr t\u00eb mundshme. Grat\u00eb, nga ana tjet\u00ebr, kan\u00eb nj\u00eb qasje t\u00eb ndryshme dhe ndoshta shum\u00eb efektive. Ata thjesht heshtin, pushojn\u00eb s\u00eb foluri dhe largohen.
\nFemrat shpesh e justifikojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb heshtje duke th\u00ebn\u00eb se u desh koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar gj\u00ebrat, por duke refuzuar t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihen, i b\u00ebjn\u00eb burrat e tyre t\u00eb mendojn\u00eb p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb gabim. Ato heshtje mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen aq t\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme saq\u00eb burrat do t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb shpejt pothuajse gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u2019i thyer ato. Duke refuzuar t\u00eb shprehin me fjal\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb duan, grat\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb burrat pothuajse t\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur d\u00ebshirat e tyre, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse kjo n\u00ebnkupton thyerjen e heshtjes. Kjo m\u00ebnyr\u00eb kontrolli nuk p\u00ebrfshin pothuajse asnj\u00eb bised\u00eb dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7udit\u00ebrisht efektive. <\/p>\n
Disa gra i kontrollojn\u00eb burrat me lajka <\/p>\n
Lajka \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mjet i dobish\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar shumic\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve, por funksionon ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht mir\u00eb te meshkujt. Lajka ushtron presion mbi dy aspekte t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, por t\u00eb fuqishme t\u00eb burrave. Se burrat u rrit\u00ebn me pritshm\u00ebrin\u00eb joreale se mund t\u00eb b\u00ebnin gjith\u00e7ka dhe se burrave rrall\u00eb u jepen komplimente. Por lajkat e femrave i pushtojn\u00eb t\u00eb dyja k\u00ebto gjendje me lajka dhe lavd\u00ebrime.
\nPa dyshim, disa nga k\u00ebto komplimente mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb sinqerta, por gjithsesi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb kontrolli. Nj\u00eb grua d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb arrij\u00eb di\u00e7ka, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb ajo e lavd\u00ebron burrin e saj, duke e l\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb se ai \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i miri n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ajo d\u00ebshiron. Kjo mund t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, por lajka \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e provuar p\u00ebr ta shtyr\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron nj\u00eb grua, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb pse t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrfitoni prej saj? <\/p>\n
Disa gra i kontrollojn\u00eb burrat duke i krahasuar me burra t\u00eb tjer\u00eb <\/p>\n
Ky lloj kontrolli p\u00ebrdoret shpesh n\u00eb edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, por n\u00eb fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb efektiv kur p\u00ebrfshihen t\u00eb rriturit. Prind\u00ebrit mund ta p\u00ebrdorin k\u00ebt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb siklet adoleshentin e tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndihmuar n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb ose p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nota m\u00eb t\u00eb mira. <\/p>\n
Versioni i t\u00eb rriturve i k\u00ebsaj ndodh kur nj\u00eb grua \u00ebsht\u00eb e pak\u00ebnaqur me disa aspekte t\u00eb nj\u00eb burri n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e saj dhe haptazi fillon t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb krahasime t\u00eb pak\u00ebndshme midis burrit t\u00eb saj dhe burrave t\u00eb tjer\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre. <\/p>\n
Deklarata t\u00eb tilla jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb do ta turp\u00ebrojn\u00eb burrin e saj dhe do ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebviz\u00eb, por edhe do t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb egon e tij. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb kund\u00ebrshtim i thjesht\u00eb, por mund t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb n\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimit dhe ta b\u00ebj\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb luftoj\u00eb kund\u00ebr krahasimeve. <\/p>\n
Kjo teknik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb padyshim efektive, por lind pyetja: a ia vlen t\u00eb manipulosh dhe t\u00eb luash me egon e nj\u00eb burri vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb heq\u00eb k\u00ebpuc\u00ebt, p\u00ebr shembull, kur vjen n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi? Sepse kontrolli nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e mir\u00eb. Grat\u00eb duhet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se me fuqi t\u00eb madhe vjen p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi e madhe dhe, kur \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb hapura dhe t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejta me burrat e tyre. <\/p>\n
*Christy Whitman \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb udh\u00ebheq\u00ebse transformuese, trajnere e t\u00eb famshm\u00ebve dhe eksperte e Ligjit t\u00eb T\u00ebrheqjes, si dhe autorja dy her\u00eb m\u00eb e shitur e New York Times e “Arti i t\u00eb kesh gjith\u00e7ka”. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu autore e bestsellerit nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtar Suksesi Kuantik.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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